Marriage is about oneness; it is about being united. Every wife desires to be one with her husband. No wife desires to get married and remain single. She understands that two have become one. She doesn’t want her own life anymore; that’s why she is getting married. She doesn’t want to be separated, left apart, or alone. Women know well, “I can do bad all by myself.”
Any man getting married needs to understand his wife’s desire, and he should want the same thing. She is not giving her life for her husband to remain a bachelor. To love her, he must glue himself to her. This will enable him to write a new story with his wife. In marriage, I, mine, and my give way to we, ours, and us. Married life should be described in terms of our story.
What are we going to do? How are we going to prepare for the future? Where will we live, and how will we rear our children? No wife wants two; she wants two to become one. Adam was one with Eve, and Christ is one with the church. When a wife uses the word love, she means she wants to be one with her husband.
Ephesians 5:22-30 says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”